I Won't Take A Day

I won’t take a day.

I want the complete year.

I don’t want to be pampered for the sake of my gender.

I want to be treated as an equal.

I don’t want to be looked down upon, for my constraints.

I want to be respected for my strengths.

I don’t want celebrations for my mere existence. Yes, I do matter and I do make a difference, but that is limited to my close circle. And that, I believe is a personal thing. My loved ones don’t need the 8^th of March to celebrate my existence! They already have the 26^th.

Is that too much to ask?

And frankly, why this helter skelter about celebrating womanhood for a day, when we are not going to remember it till next 11 months. (Of course, the ad agencies and the marketing companies will get into their act a month before. And that is a reminder good enough.)

I don’t want to draw the attention to the extremities. I am not going to talk about exemplary ladies who have brought laurels in their fields. Nor am I going to talk about the unfortunate few, who have faced atrocities of the worst degrees, because one lot has been unusually talented and the other lot has suffered exceptional misfortune. And exceptions don’t govern general guidelines.

I want to talk about myself; a girl with a comfortable middle class urban upbringing, good enough schooling and availability of the right opportunities at the correct times. I cannot claim that life has been a bed of roses for me, but it has been manageable.

During school days, differentiation on the basis of gender was limited to school uniform and assembly lines. And that made a whole lot of sense too. It was never a basis for judging one’s potential. Sadly, this mythical world was lost along with the carefree nature of school days. (Or what could be more likely, is that I didn’t open my eyes to face the real world until I passed out from school).

As I reached college, I found myself in a place where girls were supposed to sit in the front row during classes and to stand in front of (and away from) the experiment setups in labs. The fact, that I wanted to hammer my own bolt in forging workshop might raise eyebrows, was novice to me. As is always the case, I got accustomed to the changed circumstances pretty soon (and vice – versa). By the time college life was nearing a close, I found myself to be more aware about my gender but never in a negative way

However, my first posting was indeed an eye opener. Even during the orientation training, there had been a few hints, however, I found them easier to ignore than explore. My first posting was in a department which by default spelled masculinity and I was expected to be that simple and docile girl, of which we usually read about in matrimonial ads. This indeed was shockingly new and absolutely unacceptable for a person as uncouth, headstrong and firebrand as me. (And I am sure, my true self came as a big shock to my colleagues as well.)

Anyways, bestowing me with a ‘namaste’ while shaking hands with my colleagues can be a matter of personal choice; not remembering my name can be attributed to having a poor memory; however, adjudging me to be a lesser mortal than my male counterpart is definitely not acceptable by any logic. 

I might not be the strongest person physically, but then manual labour was perhaps not a prerequisite of the job. Also, I might have certain ‘safety’ concerns associated with me, but that I believe should reflect more upon the society and the guys rather than my existence. I might also have ‘family’ responsibilities attached, but so is the case with the guys as well (Here, I do assume that my male counterparts are not ignoring their personal lives for the welfare of their employer). Hence, for these cases, I would prefer to plead ‘not guilty’ rather than giving others an open ended permission to undermine my capabilities as per their convenience. Moreover, if genes (specifically presence and absence of the ‘Y’ chromosomes) were to be the sole deciding factor in defining one’s competence, then life would have been so much simpler.

Thus, when these seniors and colleagues, after challenging my existence in the corporation for 364 days, suddenly decide to celebrate ‘International Women’s Day’, then things do feel extraordinarily fishy.  And that is why I won’t take a day.

Judge me for being insincere, for being inefficient, for being unintelligent and for the umpteen flaws that exist in me; but don’t go about stereotyping me for being a woman.

All I want is to be treated at par.

Regards,

A Female Subordinate & Colleague

P.S. This year, 8^th March went very peacefully indeed. Heartfelt thanks to everyone for not isolating me on this account. :)