I’ve been feeling a certain amount of shivering
since past one hour and a DD filler has been doing re-runs in my mind, जाड़ा लग कर आये
बुखार तो समझो मलेरिया का है प्रहार. However,
since there is no bukhaar so I guess I am safe. Trying to emerge from this
world of self-indulgence, I just concluded that if I’ll ignore it, it’ll go
away. And This has set me thinking.
When was the first time that I learnt this
approach and adopted this attitude?
I can vividly remember that I was introduced to
the power of ‘ignoring’ as an attempt to save me from the ‘atrocities’ of my
elder brother. When I would approach my parents with a sullen face complaining
about the troubles the big guy was causing me, I’d be met with a reply, ‘don’t
pay attention to him, that ways he won’t enjoy his prank and eventually let it
be’. A very sound advice indeed, but one which seemed pretty lame and biased
(against me) then. Those issues were mostly resolved with me crying at the top
of my voice and him receiving a good bashing at the most and a good scolding at
the least. All because I preferred to ignore the ignoring act altogether.
As I grew up, this attitude slowly seeped into
my character towards taunting peers and road side loafers. However, the
internal resistance towards the ignoring act remained and it was done more as a
compromise than a problem solving (cum avoiding) approach. Had I been privy to Mr.
Nash’s insight on people at that time, then probably the internal resistance
might have lessened by some degrees. However as the circumstances were, the
ignoring act did save me unnecessary frictions every now and then.
As I grew up further and gained financial
independence, the confidence level required for executing the ignoring act
reached newer heights. In fact nowadays it often borders on being arrogant. I
must admit that its true worth is now understood in greater details and this tactic
is often a life saver. The only trick that remains is in identifying those
situations which truly call for this stance.
However, one application of this approach is
still a grey area. How much of this attitude is justified in connection with
ignoring health issues cannot be said until and unless the subject is either
cured out of ignorance or grieved sufficiently to come out of it.
So, while still pondering over the correctness
of my action, I guess I’ll continue ignoring it unless either it or I go away.
Incidentally I do feel pretty cured at the
moment. :P
